Father -in -law lives alone 65 miles away and refuses all help. We take shopping once a week and he is very picky with what he will eat ( mainly sweet stuff as others have mentioned). He is smoking more and more but is meticulous about emptying ash tray after each cig so unaware that a 2 a day habit is now 20 a day. Tonight I heard that his long standing lady friend from the flat below where he spends part of each day is going into a home for good (she also has dementia). Last time she was admitted he became even more erratic and confused. He phones her relatives and us incessantly asking where she is. We would be delighted if they could be placed together but he insists he is fine where he is. It wouldn't be so bad if he just phoned us but her rels have enough on without his constant calls. It's just one loss after another for him - we have removed his car as he isn't fit to drive. Sometimes he seems to understand a bit and then we're back to the beginning again - I wish I could understand how he is processing info ( or not!)