Anyone else felt let down by friends and relations because of my unwell husband. Love to all...
Hello from me and welcome to TP - lifesaver, companion, supporter and friend, it is all of these things, or it can be.
I have found relations have been supportive - from a distance though. They all live some distance away but when any have visited me, only one, my sister, has suggested visiting my husband in the nursing home. They are my relations though not my husbands's so perhaps that makes a difference.
Friends - most disappeared off the radar but the few that remain are the true friends and neighbours well, the less said the better. I live in a small close and even since my husband died a month ago, only one couple have done more than pop a card through the door and this couple have always supported me.
The excuse that people don't know what to say doesn't wash with me I'm afraid - just say anything!
The other, that people don't like to intrude doesn't either - how can the 2 words "I'm sorry" be intrusive!
The neighbours who are supportive reflect the real meaning of the word 'neighbour'.
I hope I don't sound bitter because I don't feel it. After the experience of the past few years, I've ceased to wonder at the peculiarities of others' behaviour. I guess we are all different and handle things in different ways. I've discovered myself saying "Each to their own" so many times over the past four or so years!
Just come back here and you won't feel alone again, I promise. x