Dad still lives at home but without a morning visit does not remember to shower, put on clean clothes, take tablets etc. He thinks that he manages his house and garden but my husband and I do it. I notice that he is losing weight and although I get his meals delivered, he doesn't always remember to eat them. I do his washing, ironing and shopping (he thinks I send his clothes to the laundry and that he pays me).
I work long hours and I know that this will not get any easier so I told Dad that I thought that he should have help - which he is quite happy to accept but only from me. He says that he doesn't want strangers in his house and when his doctor asks if he needs any help he always says, 'My daughter sees to everything for me'.
I know that he will only continue to stay independent and in his own home if he gets help. He can afford it and is probably entitled to an attendance allowance but I can't force this on him and I can't do it all myself.
Any advice?
I work long hours and I know that this will not get any easier so I told Dad that I thought that he should have help - which he is quite happy to accept but only from me. He says that he doesn't want strangers in his house and when his doctor asks if he needs any help he always says, 'My daughter sees to everything for me'.
I know that he will only continue to stay independent and in his own home if he gets help. He can afford it and is probably entitled to an attendance allowance but I can't force this on him and I can't do it all myself.
Any advice?