hello
@Gwendoline999
a warm welcome to DTP
I wonder, has your father been deemed to no longer have capacity to decide for himself where he will live ... if not he can choose to move into residential care as long as he has the funds to pay for his care himself
this will help you with working out whether or not he will be self-funding
Dementia care isn't free, and you may need to pay for some of the care you or someone you know needs. We help you understand the different ways to pay for care, and the amount you might be expected to pay.
www.alzheimers.org.uk
if he was living in his own home (I assume the marital home) and moves into care, the property will be deemed an asset and may have to be sold to pay for his care and indeed the care of your mother
if you have Power of Attorney, you can make arrangements on his behalf
unfortunately, if the LA believe that he is capable of living at home, should his savings fall below the threshold at some point, they may deem that he deliberately deprived himself of assets by moving into care 'too soon' ... but maybe face that when you come to it
if, though, your father has little savings/assets and a low income, then the LA will fund his care with him paying his pension and leaving only about £26 a week for personal expenses ... in this case, he is reliant on the LA social services agreeing to a move into residential care and their principle is to support people to live in their own homes for as long as possible, so they may insist on a return with a full care package and you wait until that is shown to fail ... this appears to be what is happening
would his GP be able to weigh in on his behalf ... has the manager of the home assessed your dad and agreed he is suitable, as that will help too ... is there an Admiral Nurse attached to the hospital, as they may be able to support you
Call or email our Dementia Helpline/Alzheimer's Helpline for reassuring and practical advice from our specialist team of Admiral Nurses.
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try letting the social worker know that you believe your father is a vulnerable adult at risk of harm due to potential falls when he is alone and neglect as he is unable, due to the dementia and Parkinson's, to look after himself; that the LA have the duty of care to ensure his care needs are fully met; that you fear a safeguarding issue should he fall again and this not be discovered for hours between carer visits; and that he is likely to be a failed discharge, ending up back in hospital after another fall ... also, and this will go against the grain for you, make it clear that you are no longer able to provide any hands on care so your father will be wholly reliant on the home care visits ... the phrases in this paragraph are meant to get the attention of social services
I hope you are able to get them to hear you properly