My Dad moved into a care home last week. He seems ok although he has no idea where he is or why he is there. He has surprised me by seeming fairly content sometimes and when he has periods of agitation and particular confusion he seems no worse than at home. I had a call yesterday to ask me to speak to him because he thought one of the residents was his wife and he was trying to drag her back to his room ) by that I think he had hold of her arm). The care staff member had been arguing with him and trying to persuade him that she wasn’t his wife and he was getting more and more upset and adamant that she was. The care worker seemed angry with him and was saying it was unacceptable. I spoke to him on the phone and did a bit of redirecting him, chatting about the family and reminding him that my mum is in another care home etc. He calmed down and another staff member was able to take him off for cup of tea and he was much calmer. I was surprised that someone with dementia training would be getting into a confrontation in this way and didn’t try redirecting or other strategies. I don’t know how worried to be and am planning to talk to the manager about it. Is mistaking someone else for a persons wife or husband a common thing in care homes ? While at home my dad has often just assumed that I am my mum and the same with other carers who have looked after him. It hasn’t been too much of a problem when handled sensitively and it worries me that it doesn’t the seem to have been in this case. Any thoughts ?