update on Dad
Hi Everyone and Thank You for your replies.
Dad took everything into his own hands again last night. I went to see him yesterday morning and we called the GP, she agreed that an acute medical ward is not the best place. She suggested that she put him on some anti-depressants to see if he will pick up. I spent three hours with him trying to coax him into drinking, the cook sent up some purreed fruit and cream, Dad spat it out! and his Build up.
I left him at 1200 and at 1900 they called to say that he had fallen, they had found him on the floor in his room. We went straight away (didn't know i could do it in 7mins) And then the decisions start again, the paramedics came (as grumpy and uncaring as the two that attended on April 30th) What do you want us to do? they ask. So to cut a long story short he was admitted to hospital. He has an infection but they coiuldn't find the focus last night. Again the doctor asks what do you want to do? He was severly dehydrated.
I don't know if the decisions that I have to make this morning will be the right ones but then, when do we ever?
The Doctor was very nice in asking me what I wanted, when I asked THE question (how long if he continues like this?) The answer is still a shock. Maybe a week or two. Unless we put a tube down him. I asked that they hydrate him and continue the antibiotics until this morning so that we can make the decisions on a clear head and not on a reaction to the events of the night.
So I am sitting here thinking what alot of you have said, What would Dad really want? Would he want a tube down his nose to feed him? Does he know what he is doing? Can I bear to let him go? Who would it all be for, him or us? And the problem is I think I know the answers to my own questions
Well I have to try and work out some answers for 1030. The good thing is that I have spoken to the home and they said "bring him straight back" I was so frightened that I would have to move him again.
I have tried everything I can think of, he has been to the dentist, he doesn't have thrush(which would make his mouth sore) I have offered everthing I can think of to tempt him, but in my heart of hearts I feel he knows what he is doing. When he is spitting drink out he says "I have had quite enough already or i have had sufficient" but it sounds like "I HAVE had enough"
So Thank You all again, I know that this is a difficult subject for us all. I just hope that I get this right for my wonderfull Dad whom I love beyond belief.
Sally
Hi Everyone and Thank You for your replies.
Dad took everything into his own hands again last night. I went to see him yesterday morning and we called the GP, she agreed that an acute medical ward is not the best place. She suggested that she put him on some anti-depressants to see if he will pick up. I spent three hours with him trying to coax him into drinking, the cook sent up some purreed fruit and cream, Dad spat it out! and his Build up.
I left him at 1200 and at 1900 they called to say that he had fallen, they had found him on the floor in his room. We went straight away (didn't know i could do it in 7mins) And then the decisions start again, the paramedics came (as grumpy and uncaring as the two that attended on April 30th) What do you want us to do? they ask. So to cut a long story short he was admitted to hospital. He has an infection but they coiuldn't find the focus last night. Again the doctor asks what do you want to do? He was severly dehydrated.
I don't know if the decisions that I have to make this morning will be the right ones but then, when do we ever?
The Doctor was very nice in asking me what I wanted, when I asked THE question (how long if he continues like this?) The answer is still a shock. Maybe a week or two. Unless we put a tube down him. I asked that they hydrate him and continue the antibiotics until this morning so that we can make the decisions on a clear head and not on a reaction to the events of the night.
So I am sitting here thinking what alot of you have said, What would Dad really want? Would he want a tube down his nose to feed him? Does he know what he is doing? Can I bear to let him go? Who would it all be for, him or us? And the problem is I think I know the answers to my own questions
Well I have to try and work out some answers for 1030. The good thing is that I have spoken to the home and they said "bring him straight back" I was so frightened that I would have to move him again.
I have tried everything I can think of, he has been to the dentist, he doesn't have thrush(which would make his mouth sore) I have offered everthing I can think of to tempt him, but in my heart of hearts I feel he knows what he is doing. When he is spitting drink out he says "I have had quite enough already or i have had sufficient" but it sounds like "I HAVE had enough"
So Thank You all again, I know that this is a difficult subject for us all. I just hope that I get this right for my wonderfull Dad whom I love beyond belief.
Sally