I eventually went back to bed about 3.00am I think it was and nearly overslept.
Don`t you think the funeral, when it happens, could come from the nursing home, your father`s final place of residence. If you make an announcement, anyone who wishes to pay their last respects will be able to do so.
Hi Grannie, No, anyone who dies does not go from the nursing home. Their routine is that they call in the local undertaker, who collects the body then the family deal with things.
I had a lot of hassle when my mum died trying to find where her body was located due to one of my brother's jumping in at the last minute and trying to take control despite him not being around all the months I cared for her and I had to go rush to get probate to stop him! I was in limbo for nearly a week trying to find her body as she had gone 'back to her roots' to recuperate with my sister in law (who was my brother's ex wife). He then told me after the event by phone that she had died!
It's complicated enough due to my dad living outside the area all these years but his wish was to be buried with his dad, mum and brother in the family grave. so...due to my dad relocating 250 miles in 2006 to sheltered flats near to me (where he lived for nearly two years - and who's residents became my second family - and whom I still visit when I can), the arrangements were such that when the time came, my chosen undertaker was to collect him and let him lie at rest in the undertakers local to me five miles away, (which is where I organised the service to be), so that the elderly residents of the sheltered flats could easily visit him if they wanted to as it's a straight bus ride down.
The service would then be in my local church (again so that the residents of the flats and some of my dad's grandchildren could easily access the service) and the burial would then be at the family grave which is in Bootle, Liverpool (again outside the area) his final resting place as per my dad's request.
But, now that I've moved it's more complicated as the house I was in near the church is no longer accessible to me.
But I'm sure between the undertakers and myself we can arrange something. Maybe even going from the sheltered flats where he used to live? Thank you for starting the thought process
xxx