Hello I am looking for some advice my father has Alzheimer's Dementia and was diagnosed in January 2020 having been admitted to hospital after a fall. He was discharged after a month with a Care Package and that continued but in October 2020 the care package had to be increased as it was agreed he needed 24 hour Residential Care but it was a struggle finding a home as he was in Wiltshire but I wanted him close to me in Dorset. He has now moved into a Dementia Care Home very close to me on Friday 27th November and that evening I had two telephone calls to me from him demanding to go home he hated it he was very agitated and upset saying he will get a taxi he wants to go home now! After two calls I asked the Senior staff member to not call me anymore as he needed to be calmed and calling me is not helping him. I called and spoke to Dad on Saturday afternoon and he was much calmer still not happy but calmer and seeming to be more positive, however he asked to call me again on Monday (yesterday) and I struggled to understand him as his speech appeared to be very slurred and he was again stating he hated it but knows he cannot go back to his bungalow but he wants to move to another home as this one is horrible. The home has a very good CQC report and reviews are all over 9 and is in the same village as me and whilst I appreciate it is very different for him to being at his own home but I also understand that the levels of Dementia are different in the residents and some are very late stage. I have been told he will not come downstairs and mix with the others despite him being desperate for company and his mobility compared to in his bungalow appears worse and he is sitting in his room alone watching TV, is this normal and to be expected? I totally get its only been a few days but I am feeling guilt, fear, sadness everything you can think of for agreeing with the Social Worker that he needs to be in the home as he now requires 24 hour care and I am spending all my time beating myself up for making him so unhappy. I just need advice on how to play this, the home are saying do not visit until towards the end of the week dependant on how he is (which I can understand as he is so unsettled) but he asks to phone me and pleads for me to visit him. He keeps asking me if I have forgotten about him (he used to phone me at least every half hour at his home during the day everyday) and I have explained no I haven't but he needs to make friends and settle down in his new home and that I will call him in a day or two...am I doing the right thing? He is like a lost and sad little boy who sounds so frightened and sad and that is breaking my heart but at the same time I am now ready to start getting my life back after months of constant telephone calls, weekly visits driving to Wiltshire from Dorset and just not having the headspace to deal with anything other than him. Any advice would be most gratefully received thank you