We seem to go round and round in circles with my Dad about him moving and he is doing my head in lol ! He and my Mum who has moderate dementia both live in Wales. Maybe he thinks if he moves Mum will somehow improve. I worry what change would do to the both of them especially my Mum. He moans if I want to change the slightest thing in the house.
He is struggling a little and is finally hopefully going to take some home help to help day to day. There are assisted care flats which are expensive a few miles away and he was keen to investigate them last week. My mums PSN thinks it would be a good idea too. They have a 2 course lunch etc and he would have more people to talk to and it would be a safer environment. Now he's not keen at all probably as its very expensive, he changes his mind like the wind !
He is now talking about moving closer to the village in a small council bungalow. Its not assisted living. Other than living closer to the shops I'm not sure why he wants to go and he can't explain to me. Currently he has to drive so maybe he wants to give that up which is fair enough. I have found a driver / taxi service for him and my siblings live close to give him lifts but he doesn't seem interested. I don't understand other than not really having enough money why he just doesn't buy a smaller property in the village or another cheaper village.
He wouldn't be eligible for a council house as after selling his house he would have too much capital and I'm guessing he wouldn't be able to just give the money away as surely that would be fraudulent. There is a waiting list too and it could be years before a free house comes available. This has been going on and on for years ! He never tells me what he is planning, I just find out from my siblings.
I'm a bit lost as to what to do. I try and help him and I give him practical advice but he doesn't ever seem to listen to me. I'm not sure he knows what he wants himself.
Any thoughts ?
He is struggling a little and is finally hopefully going to take some home help to help day to day. There are assisted care flats which are expensive a few miles away and he was keen to investigate them last week. My mums PSN thinks it would be a good idea too. They have a 2 course lunch etc and he would have more people to talk to and it would be a safer environment. Now he's not keen at all probably as its very expensive, he changes his mind like the wind !
He is now talking about moving closer to the village in a small council bungalow. Its not assisted living. Other than living closer to the shops I'm not sure why he wants to go and he can't explain to me. Currently he has to drive so maybe he wants to give that up which is fair enough. I have found a driver / taxi service for him and my siblings live close to give him lifts but he doesn't seem interested. I don't understand other than not really having enough money why he just doesn't buy a smaller property in the village or another cheaper village.
He wouldn't be eligible for a council house as after selling his house he would have too much capital and I'm guessing he wouldn't be able to just give the money away as surely that would be fraudulent. There is a waiting list too and it could be years before a free house comes available. This has been going on and on for years ! He never tells me what he is planning, I just find out from my siblings.
I'm a bit lost as to what to do. I try and help him and I give him practical advice but he doesn't ever seem to listen to me. I'm not sure he knows what he wants himself.
Any thoughts ?