My dad has been in hospital for just over a week with pneumonia. He picked up for a few days and started eating and drinking but he has gone down hill the last few days and will only sip a little tea and is not swallowing any food. It just sits in his mouth. He is also very rigid his legs are very stiff and tight and his feet are twisted together, he feels like he is gripping them together. They have him on a drip, oxygen with paracetamol IV. Hospital have just told my sister they want to send him back to the care home ( it is not nursing but they did take one lady back too die after Christmas). Hospital haven't said anything but I assume that means they can't do anything else for him ( up to 10 days ago he could still walk with help and drink and eat he is 89). I can't stop crying, he is so thin and frail now it seems so cruel that even though they know he is going to die we have to wait till he dies from dehydration and lack of food. I feel like I have let him down and just prolonged his misery by letting them give him the antibiotics and oxygen. I know lots of you have been through this already. What can I expect and what can I do to make sure his last few days( I just pray it is quick) are as comfortable as possible. How did you cope, I can't stop crying and feel numb. Why is this disease so cruel, it strips them of everything then makes them endure a slow drawn out death.