As you know my Dad went in the home for his respite week a few weeks ago, when he was really poorly and mum was at the end of her tether. Well they found a permanent place for him and it meant that he wouldnt be coming back home, but because he has been,and still is, very weak with the recovery from pneumonia, we decided to delay telling him that it was permanent because we were afraid that it would knock him back and he would lose the fight needed to recover. Well he asked my sister a couple of days ago when he is coming home and she explained that he needed to get stronger before he could come home and he said to me today 'Am I going home tomorrow?', because he knows that he usually goes home on a Monday. Believe me I am beginning to question whether, as he does get stronger, he should be in there at all - all different emotions run through you. I know my mum was at the end of her tether, emotionally and physically, in particular with the incontinence which has got out of control. I know that she cannot think about him coming home and that he probably wont. She has her own worries on top as she has recently found a lump in her breast and has an appt through for tests, etc, so we have that to consider as well. It is just very hard, because I know Dad just wants to go home and be in his own surroundings, but that it wont be possible. AD has affected him badly with shuffling, falls, incontinence, short-term memory, but he knows who we all are and we can have conversations with him and he knows what is going on, which makes it almost all the harder when it comes to something like this. I know that he is getting depressed, but his medication at the moment doesnt allow for him to go on anti-d. I said to him today that as soon as he is up to it I will take him out anywhere he wants to go and we could maybe go home for an afternoon. What do you think is the best way to deal with this. After all we cant keep him at the home against his will, but I know mum just cant cope anymore and I work full-time. Any ideas greatly appreciated. On the plus side, however, it means he is feeling better, now he is asking the question, but just how do we deal with it - I dont want to knock him back, not yet.
Sorry for the long post.
Snooky x
Sorry for the long post.
Snooky x