I have now got dad into respite. I dropped him off yesterday following a few weeks of me nearing the edge, two incidents with police, incontinence and confusion. He was fine when I was there. I popped out to take a break and by time I got back he was all over the place!! Saying he wanted to go home, telling me he hated me and I had stitched him up by putting him on a bad job (he thinks he is at work) and asking me to leave my car key on the side when I went out of the room. I managed to calm him down saying I needed to go home to feed the cats. I rung later and one of the girls said he had calmed down and wrote her name on his hand so he didn't forget and had also chatted to one of the other residents. She said in his notes it says that he is early stages but she says that it is definitely more advanced than that. This morning when I called they said he had a restless night and was pacing but eventually settled. They asked if he had a partner which i said no mum died 7 years ago. I spoke to him briefly and he was his usual confused self and said he might be coming home early. He was ok though. I am praying that he settles. He is there for 3 weeks and I really want him to enjoy it. We shall see. I am going to go tomorrow to see him but I am really nervous.