The last 6 months have been hell with dad being in and out of hospital, then discharge to assess in care home and battling social services for more care support to get him home.
Dad was taken into hospital again last week with a chest infection that has gradually worsened to pneumonia and now sepsis. They stopped treatment last night and are using a subcut to administer a drug to calm him when he starts getting distressed. He hasn't woken much today, no food or drink (I don't think they are proving fluid through subcut but I could be wrong). He has responded to our voices occasionally through grunting but that's it. The doctors have said it's likely to be days rather than weeks.
He's not in our local hospital and they said he's to ill to move anywhere. My worry is there's a huge festival on this weekend and I will have to drive through all the festival traffic/navigate closed roads to get to the hospital. I'm terrified we will get a call and not make it back in time. All local hotels are fully booked so I feel I have no option but to sleep in the car so I'm on hand. That's fine for me but I worry how my 77 year old mum will manage. She has aged hugely over these past 6 months. ☹
I know it's an impossible question to answer but does anyone have any idea how much notice the hospital could give us that he's nearing the end? Is 'likely to be days' as good as it gets?
I'm feeling hugely lost and devoid of any emotion right now, I just want to do the right thing by him and my mum.
Dad was taken into hospital again last week with a chest infection that has gradually worsened to pneumonia and now sepsis. They stopped treatment last night and are using a subcut to administer a drug to calm him when he starts getting distressed. He hasn't woken much today, no food or drink (I don't think they are proving fluid through subcut but I could be wrong). He has responded to our voices occasionally through grunting but that's it. The doctors have said it's likely to be days rather than weeks.
He's not in our local hospital and they said he's to ill to move anywhere. My worry is there's a huge festival on this weekend and I will have to drive through all the festival traffic/navigate closed roads to get to the hospital. I'm terrified we will get a call and not make it back in time. All local hotels are fully booked so I feel I have no option but to sleep in the car so I'm on hand. That's fine for me but I worry how my 77 year old mum will manage. She has aged hugely over these past 6 months. ☹
I know it's an impossible question to answer but does anyone have any idea how much notice the hospital could give us that he's nearing the end? Is 'likely to be days' as good as it gets?
I'm feeling hugely lost and devoid of any emotion right now, I just want to do the right thing by him and my mum.