Today I took Dad to the care home on the pretence I was calling in for work and just had to leave him there. The guilt I felt was crushing. I honestly wanted to run back in and take him back home. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. The SW assessment and said he needed 24hr care but I'm now starting to question it.
I expected him to kick off as soon as he realised what had happened but I've had a call from the home and he's actually had a bath!!! He hasn't had a bath or shower for 4 months.
He's been wandering around chatting to people and even though its only the first day seems happy. The thing that's confusing me is Dad, when with people appears quite lucid. When he's on his own he gets very confused and is almost delusional. He can of been out for an hour (with a carer), get home and phone as soon as the carer has left asking when he is going out as he hasn't been out that day. The CH is seeing him as someone different as I have described him. It confuses me as he can appear quite lucid when he's with people but as soon as he is on his own he is totally lost and doesn't know what happened 2 minutes ago. He can literally phone me or my sister, then when he ends the call, phone again within a minute and have exactly the same conversation. I don't know if this is normal or if its because he's lonely. At home he only sleeps for about 2hours at a time but he's not had a sleep today. Is this normal or is he not as bad as I thought he was but just lonely.
I expected him to kick off as soon as he realised what had happened but I've had a call from the home and he's actually had a bath!!! He hasn't had a bath or shower for 4 months.
He's been wandering around chatting to people and even though its only the first day seems happy. The thing that's confusing me is Dad, when with people appears quite lucid. When he's on his own he gets very confused and is almost delusional. He can of been out for an hour (with a carer), get home and phone as soon as the carer has left asking when he is going out as he hasn't been out that day. The CH is seeing him as someone different as I have described him. It confuses me as he can appear quite lucid when he's with people but as soon as he is on his own he is totally lost and doesn't know what happened 2 minutes ago. He can literally phone me or my sister, then when he ends the call, phone again within a minute and have exactly the same conversation. I don't know if this is normal or if its because he's lonely. At home he only sleeps for about 2hours at a time but he's not had a sleep today. Is this normal or is he not as bad as I thought he was but just lonely.