hi all,
don't quite know where to start with this, but needed to write something! Dad not been well for a while with colds and coughs and problem going to loo, but it's now got too the stage where mum had to ring my sister up during the middle of the night to get her to come & help with dad (me & brother where away in Poland - so that's the first problem - we weren't there when mum needed us) Sal has been a brick to mum, and also the CPN and Dr - after a difficult night it was proposed that it would be the best thing all round if Dad went to the local care home - and it looks like it will be permanent - we can't go & see him until Monday and really no idea what to expect. Dad always been a stubborn person and if he didn't like something you certainly got to know about it - the care home says he's settling in OK but the CPN had a pretty tough time yesterday, probably because she was the one who actully took him in, and dad had to have a mild sedative. Mum seems ok on the outside but I'm sure all the usual feelings of guilt, let down etc are there - she says the house is very quite even though dad didn't say alot - there always was a presence. Feel really sad that not there for mum & dad when they needed us and to top it all off my golden lab "Tonka" died unexpectedly yesterday morning. So shedding an awfull lot of tears as I write this and at the moment don't know when they'll stop.
Nervous of going to see dad on monday - no idea how it will be and how he will react to us - any suggestions?
Rach
don't quite know where to start with this, but needed to write something! Dad not been well for a while with colds and coughs and problem going to loo, but it's now got too the stage where mum had to ring my sister up during the middle of the night to get her to come & help with dad (me & brother where away in Poland - so that's the first problem - we weren't there when mum needed us) Sal has been a brick to mum, and also the CPN and Dr - after a difficult night it was proposed that it would be the best thing all round if Dad went to the local care home - and it looks like it will be permanent - we can't go & see him until Monday and really no idea what to expect. Dad always been a stubborn person and if he didn't like something you certainly got to know about it - the care home says he's settling in OK but the CPN had a pretty tough time yesterday, probably because she was the one who actully took him in, and dad had to have a mild sedative. Mum seems ok on the outside but I'm sure all the usual feelings of guilt, let down etc are there - she says the house is very quite even though dad didn't say alot - there always was a presence. Feel really sad that not there for mum & dad when they needed us and to top it all off my golden lab "Tonka" died unexpectedly yesterday morning. So shedding an awfull lot of tears as I write this and at the moment don't know when they'll stop.
Nervous of going to see dad on monday - no idea how it will be and how he will react to us - any suggestions?
Rach