I and my husband have been looking after both of my parents who are in their. 90s and both have Alzheimers. We have lived with them for nearly a year leaving our home 160 miles away. Dad's Alzheimers is worsening and I am up at least twice every night. Mums is affected more by memory loss. Both think I am a permanent fixture and mentioning that I need to leave to get home falls on deaf ears..I am now feeling exhausted and know that I can't carry on too much longer. I have recently got Dad to accept Day-care and he seemed to be ok except that on a couple of occasions he was sat on a chair waiting for me and was annoyed that I hadn't collected him earlier. The Home is good and I feel that he will be looked after well in the Dementia Unit. The staff reassure me that he has been ok as I worry that he could get difficult. I have now been offered a Placement next week and just don't know how it will work. Somebody said stay with him in the evening to settle him as he Sundowns and I am really worried that he just won't settle. The Home is really accommodating and are happy that I take Mum in as often as she wants to see Dad and have offered her some respite also, but she doesn't want to go. I am feeling awful tonight, if he won't stay I don't know what to do, I am being urged by all disciplines and family to just do it as it is getting ....him or me.....