Hello, I've been woken by my OH, who is now asleep (!) and I just found this thread. He often doesn't recognise me, but I never say 'I am your wife', as ours is a second marriage, and I don't want to have to tell him his first wife has died, if that is who he is looking for! I always just say....I'm J. We had a horrible argument a couple of mornings ago, I thought he was being really thoughtless and selfish, but when we were sitting having breakfast, I realised he thought he was in a care home and that I was a member of staff! Unusually for him, this has persisted...yesterday evening he still thought I was being paid to look after him. I find the transitions hard. I never know if I have my lovely husband with me, or this ( not always) amiable stranger, who doesn't know me. In some ways it will be easier, I think, when we are further along in the illness, but more consistent.