My dads fixation is money. Who owes him etc.I try distraction but it doesn’t always work. Agreeing doesn’t either.My dad will literally jump out of his chair with temper. He cannot walk without a frame so at least he cannot hit me.Although he is very good at throwing.So no more ideas than you have already tried. But I wanted you to know you are not alone.Hello everyone. I haven’t checked in for a while, but a lot has happened in the meantime. To summarise: dad is now on memantine, and generally speaking his moods and aggression levels have decreased. He is also experiencing more episodes of mental clarity than before, so I am hopeful that he can stay on them for the time being. He does still have episodes of confusion and anger, but nothing close to the dangerous levels of aggression he was experiencing before and after starting his previous meds (donepezil - now ceased).
We also finally saw a specialist last week regarding the aneurysm, and the doctor concluded that it’s of a size that doesn’t require operating on at this time, but they will continue to monitor it every 6 months.
Now we come to the main reason I am here. How do we respond when the PWD insists they were “never told about something”? This happens a lot and conflict can mostly be avoided by diversionary tactics or self deprecation; however l, when it comes to more serious issues, specifically money-matters, it is proving very tricky. Lately my parents have sold a property they owned and used to let out. The sale went relatively smoothly but my Dad still got very confused throughout and repeatedly asserted that no one had told him about the fees and other related expenses (including the money to be paid back to the mortgage lender). It is really difficult to know how to answer, so any tips would be appreciated. We have tried a few different methods (mentioned as above) but when it comes to money this does not placate him and he gets really angry with Mum and accuses her of hiding things from him. I know that itself is symptomatic of the disease, but any experience you can share in similar situations would be much appreciated. It’s so easy to keep getting it wrong, and when we do it always results in anger. Thank you for reading.