I am really confused - is the criteria for residential care different to the criteria for day care/respite? I keep being told different requirements by our LA - firstly I was told that as David had savings of more than £23,000 (albeit in bricks and mortar - not our home)he was not entitled to any financial assistance. I have spent the last few months getting permission from the COP to try and buy his half of the bricks and mortar and thus release his funds to pay for his care (residential) when the time comes. I then understood that when his funds fall below approx £14,000 the LA would take over the funding and also take his pensions. I was also told that in the meantime it could be that money we have been spending over the last eighteen months on Day Care/Petrol taking him there etc and any other disability related expenses, could possibly be recouped as this was not the same criteria as residential care. I spent ages calculating cost of petrol etc etc only to be told by the same SW that he had made a mistake and as David's assets (same bricks and mortar!) were over their £23,000 threshold we were still not entitled to any help here either. I am so mixed up - I have specially chosen a Care Home which is 'fully funded' by our LA - however, if they continue to charge us £1,150 a week when David goes full time(due to one to one care as he was so demanding during respite) there is no way the LA will fund that! What would happen then? - the Home say they would never ask anyone to leave as that is their home and they/we would have to negotiate with the LA. There is no way I would be able to afford top ups. I really thought I had this all sussed out but now I am panicking.