UPDATE - MOVING DAY TO CARE HOME NO. 2
Well what can I say, I still have terrible misgivings that dad is in the right care home now. Especially when you get first hand experience of what 'challenging behaviour' really is!
I moved dad into his new care home this morning. I hardly slept last night after waking up thinking about socks! How is it, that some subliminal thought just pops into your head and you realise that when you were looking in dads room yesterday, you didn’t see any socks. I had left dad with 9 pairs of black socks when he went into the care home and he had not one pair left, admittedly they were the only items I hadn’t been able to label, who labels socks? (Apparently I should have got some embroidery thread and put his initials in them, yeh!) But I did expect him to at least get some socks back. It also explains why I’ve not seen him wearing any socks the last couple of times I’ve visited. So as I was awake and not likely to get back to sleep, I ended up ironing some of dads things at 4am.
My extraction plan of transferring dad to the new home didn't quite go as planned, I had planned to arrive at the care home, go to dads room, pack his things, check it against the inventory I’d done and chase up any missing items. Then when I’d done all that and put it in the car. I would go and find dad. No such luck, I literally turned the corner into the corridor and almost bumped into dad, having a wander and worse still he'd wet himself. So I had to go and find someone to sort dad and let us into his room. He then refused to allow the carer to change him, saying it would dry, until I put my foot down and told him I wouldn't take him out unless he allowed her to change his clothes, to which he succumbed. So then I had to pack all his things working around them.
Apart from 9 pairs of socks missing, a jumper and a pj top, everything was there and the missing items were recovered. I then had to collect his meds, I had to sign for his Lorazepam, considering he went in there with no meds, in just less than 4 weeks he came out with three lots, he's now added some antibiotics for phlebitis to his growing list. Plus I was told the Dr was going to prescribe some derma cream for some really bad flaky and inflamed skin all over his face and head, but the Dr decided as he was moving he would just write an advisory note for his next Dr to prescribe it. (I've since been told this could take up to 2 weeks for a new Dr to take over and he also doesn't have sufficient meds, only enough to last him about a week). A bit of a disaster really. I was also told to tell the nurse at the new care home to give dad half a Lorazepam at 2pm. Well this didn't go down very well with the new care home nurse as the prescription label said to give as required, no specified times, so she said she couldn't give it to dad then because he may not require it and if at some point there is ever an investigation into dads meds this could get her into trouble. I told her to take it up with the other care home. No discharge papers were given to me or care plan, I was told it had all been sent, but the new care home said they hadn't received it.
I'm not sure what dad really thought when we left his old care home and where he was going, I think he just thought we were going out for lunch, so I left it at that, he just thought it was a long way away!
I'd arranged like the first time to arrive just before lunch as this does help distract dad and settle him in better. I could see though after lunch he kept asking about the car, so he must have been wanting to go, but I ignored and distracted him until eventually he dozed off in a chair and I made my getaway, this was about 3pm.
This was not before I saw a lady resident who I had met earlier, who was pleasant and calm, turn into your worst nightmare, screaming, shouting, swearing, biting, kicking you name it, all because the carers were trying to get her dressed and I saw a male resident who constantly rocked and shouted the same thing over and over again, this was for the whole time I was there. I'm looking forward to finding out what the other 3 residents have up their sleeves and I've got to say dad seems almost normal compared to these.
Oh happy times!
Elle x
Well what can I say, I still have terrible misgivings that dad is in the right care home now. Especially when you get first hand experience of what 'challenging behaviour' really is!
I moved dad into his new care home this morning. I hardly slept last night after waking up thinking about socks! How is it, that some subliminal thought just pops into your head and you realise that when you were looking in dads room yesterday, you didn’t see any socks. I had left dad with 9 pairs of black socks when he went into the care home and he had not one pair left, admittedly they were the only items I hadn’t been able to label, who labels socks? (Apparently I should have got some embroidery thread and put his initials in them, yeh!) But I did expect him to at least get some socks back. It also explains why I’ve not seen him wearing any socks the last couple of times I’ve visited. So as I was awake and not likely to get back to sleep, I ended up ironing some of dads things at 4am.
My extraction plan of transferring dad to the new home didn't quite go as planned, I had planned to arrive at the care home, go to dads room, pack his things, check it against the inventory I’d done and chase up any missing items. Then when I’d done all that and put it in the car. I would go and find dad. No such luck, I literally turned the corner into the corridor and almost bumped into dad, having a wander and worse still he'd wet himself. So I had to go and find someone to sort dad and let us into his room. He then refused to allow the carer to change him, saying it would dry, until I put my foot down and told him I wouldn't take him out unless he allowed her to change his clothes, to which he succumbed. So then I had to pack all his things working around them.
Apart from 9 pairs of socks missing, a jumper and a pj top, everything was there and the missing items were recovered. I then had to collect his meds, I had to sign for his Lorazepam, considering he went in there with no meds, in just less than 4 weeks he came out with three lots, he's now added some antibiotics for phlebitis to his growing list. Plus I was told the Dr was going to prescribe some derma cream for some really bad flaky and inflamed skin all over his face and head, but the Dr decided as he was moving he would just write an advisory note for his next Dr to prescribe it. (I've since been told this could take up to 2 weeks for a new Dr to take over and he also doesn't have sufficient meds, only enough to last him about a week). A bit of a disaster really. I was also told to tell the nurse at the new care home to give dad half a Lorazepam at 2pm. Well this didn't go down very well with the new care home nurse as the prescription label said to give as required, no specified times, so she said she couldn't give it to dad then because he may not require it and if at some point there is ever an investigation into dads meds this could get her into trouble. I told her to take it up with the other care home. No discharge papers were given to me or care plan, I was told it had all been sent, but the new care home said they hadn't received it.
I'm not sure what dad really thought when we left his old care home and where he was going, I think he just thought we were going out for lunch, so I left it at that, he just thought it was a long way away!
I'd arranged like the first time to arrive just before lunch as this does help distract dad and settle him in better. I could see though after lunch he kept asking about the car, so he must have been wanting to go, but I ignored and distracted him until eventually he dozed off in a chair and I made my getaway, this was about 3pm.
This was not before I saw a lady resident who I had met earlier, who was pleasant and calm, turn into your worst nightmare, screaming, shouting, swearing, biting, kicking you name it, all because the carers were trying to get her dressed and I saw a male resident who constantly rocked and shouted the same thing over and over again, this was for the whole time I was there. I'm looking forward to finding out what the other 3 residents have up their sleeves and I've got to say dad seems almost normal compared to these.
Oh happy times!
Elle x