Well Jean's sister has finally landed in hospital for what I believe to be the last time. She is dying of cancer and is Jean's closest relative both geographically and emotionally. We are led to believe that she will be transferred from hospital to hospice where she will be until she dies.
This has caused chaos with Jean. She was wandering off yesterday and 'worrying the neighbours' as we were told by a phone call from her other sister at 7.30am yesterday morning just as we were getting ready to leave for work. Like I am bothered what her neighbours think - that is totally NOT the important factor here but is what her sister Nancy was fixating on. That and the fact she had decided to go shopping that day which meant in her eyes that we had to just blow off work and come and sit with Jean all day!! What were we supposed to do????? Gav has just started a trial run in a new job (some of you may recall that he is being made redundant soon) so he couldn't just not turn up and I don't drive.
Consequently I spent most of the day on the phone trying to get help - home help couldn't do any more than give her her breakfast, her social worker is off sick and ALL the other social workers were in a meeting ALL DAY!!!! Then I tried the doc - he is away til monday!!
We tried to stay calm and wait til we could get over there after work and when we went to speak to Nancy she said she hadn't gone shopping after all but didn't think to let us know - just let us worry all day!! Now she has decided not to have anything to do with Jean. In her words 'she will have to manage on her own from now on'. Trouble is she provides Jean's evening meal - her other sister who is now in hospital used to provide lunch and home help sorted breakfast. Now all she has is breakfast!! Some of you may be thinking that Nancy won't go through with abandoning her sister but she has in fact booked a holiday away that starts this saturday!!!!!!!
I am at my wits end really - I have NO idea what to do other than I am going to try and hassle the social services again today. She will be at the daycare centre today so I am a little calmer than yesterday but what about tomorrow and the day after that and the day after that?? I know I should take it one day at a time but I can't. I am so scared she is going to wander off and get scared or hurt or worse. I just don't know what to do
Sorry that was a little longer than I expected it to be and my real question was going to be 'does anyone have any experience of care homes in North Yorkshire? Particularly near Ingleton, Bentham, Settle, Skipton areas??'
Sorry again for rambling,
Blue_Gremlin
This has caused chaos with Jean. She was wandering off yesterday and 'worrying the neighbours' as we were told by a phone call from her other sister at 7.30am yesterday morning just as we were getting ready to leave for work. Like I am bothered what her neighbours think - that is totally NOT the important factor here but is what her sister Nancy was fixating on. That and the fact she had decided to go shopping that day which meant in her eyes that we had to just blow off work and come and sit with Jean all day!! What were we supposed to do????? Gav has just started a trial run in a new job (some of you may recall that he is being made redundant soon) so he couldn't just not turn up and I don't drive.
Consequently I spent most of the day on the phone trying to get help - home help couldn't do any more than give her her breakfast, her social worker is off sick and ALL the other social workers were in a meeting ALL DAY!!!! Then I tried the doc - he is away til monday!!
We tried to stay calm and wait til we could get over there after work and when we went to speak to Nancy she said she hadn't gone shopping after all but didn't think to let us know - just let us worry all day!! Now she has decided not to have anything to do with Jean. In her words 'she will have to manage on her own from now on'. Trouble is she provides Jean's evening meal - her other sister who is now in hospital used to provide lunch and home help sorted breakfast. Now all she has is breakfast!! Some of you may be thinking that Nancy won't go through with abandoning her sister but she has in fact booked a holiday away that starts this saturday!!!!!!!
I am at my wits end really - I have NO idea what to do other than I am going to try and hassle the social services again today. She will be at the daycare centre today so I am a little calmer than yesterday but what about tomorrow and the day after that and the day after that?? I know I should take it one day at a time but I can't. I am so scared she is going to wander off and get scared or hurt or worse. I just don't know what to do
Sorry that was a little longer than I expected it to be and my real question was going to be 'does anyone have any experience of care homes in North Yorkshire? Particularly near Ingleton, Bentham, Settle, Skipton areas??'
Sorry again for rambling,
Blue_Gremlin