I am so ******* angry pardon my language its unbelievable. They moved her at 3am to another ward.
I just rang them up, the new ward and was grilled by the sister of the ward. She was saying mum was in a 'right state' and covered in pressure sores. mum has one prssure sore i missed on lower right leg at back, fair enough, what she calls the other pressure sores are tears in the skin, her skin is so thin it can rip from simple movement as the ambulance crew found out yesterday they ended up putting 3 swab patches on where they tore her while moving.
She talked to my brother and has a meeting with him at dinnertime, this is the same brother who hasn't visited for a yr, and cause he's a nurse thinks he take over her treatment whenever she is in hospital, he really hacked off mums consultant on her regular ward last year.
I am the next of kin, not him, and am about ready to blow a fuse
Dear David, of course you are angry..........angry with said brother ( there seems to be at least one like that in every family)............angry at your mum's treatment over the bed situation ( but at least she is settled now).
Channel the anger into energy to change the things you are in control of, and try to rise above the rest. You know you are doing your very best for mum.
I've been down and had quite a 'chat' with this sister of the ward, I blew all her points out of the water, and pointed out I was insulted to be acused of not looking after mum properly, then it was the "oh I didn't mean to imply..." etc etc
half of mums prob like being dehydrated was from being on a hospital trolley for 14hrs and not being able to ask for a drink.....
I dealt with it all like that
I also informed them tho my brother would probably be trying to tell them what he wanted he has no right over mums care.
I am angry at being upset like this, and fed up, the district nurse sister backs me 100% so least i have that support but if I get any more **** i complain
thanks all, Kathleen, money where my bro is concerned is he has it, we don't.
Mum, just b4 she had the incident that caused the dementia told me a story from 1940 when my uncle phillip married aunty venus (the other one with dementia) and her family held the wedding.
Mum said they treated them as if they were riff raff, barely tolerated.
On the train back she asked why and my grandad said " because they don't know any better, but we do", mum said my bro was just like that family, ashamed to have relations without money, mind u he's always been like that.
He made it clear, its my job, and fine I wouldn't have changed a thing ovr the past 14yrs, but he isn't stepping in now cause he thinks he can show other ppl he looks good and knows what he's talking about as a unit manager for a few psychiatric wards.
I let him know mum was in hospital, not so he can tell staff what he wants, but so he can visit mum if anything happened it would not be right, but then I think family comes first, even the bad ones
David, just read your last posting. You are right to feel that they would not have let you go if things had been critical. We will all have our fingers crossed, and those of us who pray will add you to our prayers.
just been to see her, she's responding they say to the antibiotics which is good in fact she was a little bit, grumpy, not seen that often with her.
I did mention to staff, leaving her glasses off and hearing out will get less response when they want cooperation.
in daylight tho she looks a right state, both her hands are black and blue from blood samples and pulled out iv's. her arms are similar from handling i expect, she bruises and tears so easily now.