Well today the SW came today and me and the OH had the Care Home discussion with him and went into the MIL - yesterday she had a moment of clarity she was yes I know you do so much and I need to go into a home - well today it was gone and basically we wanted rid of her - she wasn't a nuisance and what did we do for her - I wont go on - I went outside the annex and said just seeing to the dogs and had a melt down got it together went back in - so the long and short of it is the SW sees our side and will put the wheels in motion for the Care Home. I still feel sick and the G &T is not touching the sides!