My mother has been in the home she was placed in under an emergency order when my father died suddenly. My father had refused to give anyone power of attorney and tried to minimise Mum's condition so as soon as it was obvious she was lacking capability she was made subject to the Court of Protection. We left her in the home where she'd been placed while we got a diagnosis and one of my siblings applied to be a deputy with regard to Mum's financial arrangements. All this took best part of a year and we are still battling with probate issues and the like (Dad was old fashioned and had everything in his name) 13 months after his death.
Mum has since been diagnosed with Alzheimers and vascular dementia and is approaching the end of the middle stage of Alzheimers.
The home she is in is several hours drive from any of her children as our parents decided to 'retire to the west country'. It's a good home and she is well looked after but even so, there are things we feel we need to check on regularly. We pay for a carer to take her to the hairdressers every week so she gets an outing and we travel to see her as often as possible. However, with the distances involved (from 300 to 1500 miles) it isn't always easy. We are very conscious anything we do should be for Mum's benefit and not our convenience but we feel strongly if she were closer we could do more for her and see more of her - that would be to her benefit even if she doesn't remember we've been.
However, we are concerned about a) whether we'd be 'allowed' to - theoretically her medical care is with the Community Mental Health team not us and b) how well transferring someone with Alzheimers works. Does anyone have experience of moving someone who is under Court of Protection? How do we go about getting permission to move her? How easy is the transition for the Alzheimer's sufferer. Is the handover between the healthcare services smooth or are there things we should watch out for? How do we even initiate the discussion to determine whether it's a good idea?
Mum is paying for her own care and actually this move is likely to cost more, rather than less, so we can demonstrate our motives are pure. (I know COP is on the lookout for people trying to preserve their inheritance to the detriment of their relatives care.)
Any advice or shared experience would be very welcome.
Thank you
Mum has since been diagnosed with Alzheimers and vascular dementia and is approaching the end of the middle stage of Alzheimers.
The home she is in is several hours drive from any of her children as our parents decided to 'retire to the west country'. It's a good home and she is well looked after but even so, there are things we feel we need to check on regularly. We pay for a carer to take her to the hairdressers every week so she gets an outing and we travel to see her as often as possible. However, with the distances involved (from 300 to 1500 miles) it isn't always easy. We are very conscious anything we do should be for Mum's benefit and not our convenience but we feel strongly if she were closer we could do more for her and see more of her - that would be to her benefit even if she doesn't remember we've been.
However, we are concerned about a) whether we'd be 'allowed' to - theoretically her medical care is with the Community Mental Health team not us and b) how well transferring someone with Alzheimers works. Does anyone have experience of moving someone who is under Court of Protection? How do we go about getting permission to move her? How easy is the transition for the Alzheimer's sufferer. Is the handover between the healthcare services smooth or are there things we should watch out for? How do we even initiate the discussion to determine whether it's a good idea?
Mum is paying for her own care and actually this move is likely to cost more, rather than less, so we can demonstrate our motives are pure. (I know COP is on the lookout for people trying to preserve their inheritance to the detriment of their relatives care.)
Any advice or shared experience would be very welcome.
Thank you
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