Hi everyone,
I became my mother's 'receiver' via the Court of Protection last autumn and wondered whether anyone had any advice for completing the annual accounts.
The paperwork required to get to this point has been incredible! If I had known what was involved at the beginning I might have had second thoughts.
My mother's father had Alzheimers and so when my mother started to develop the signs a few years ago we knew right away what it was. Over time, I spoke to my father several times about taking her to the doctor, or getting some kind of help (they were both in their 70s). But for whatever reason, he never would; he would say 'let's see what she's like in a couple of weeks'. She wasn't washing, was sleeping in her clothes and never changing them; hiding things, getting herself locked into rooms, forgetting to take her thyroid medication and so on.
Anyway, last March 07 they went to Spain for a fortnight and the day after they arrived we got a call to say Dad had had a major heart attack and basically passed away in the hotel room. Mum was on her own in a foreign country and I don't have a passport! So you can imagine our panic - happily, a wonderful lady from the travel company went to the clinic to be with her and stayed with her all day, flying back to the UK with her that night.
Since that time Mum has lived with us in our house as I cannot deal with her living alone and the amount of time I would have to spend at her house to care for her (even with the help of social services). I am married with 3 young children and also self-employed.
My greatest sadness is that Mum cannot tell me what happened in my father's last hours, and I have no way of knowing how long she might have sat watching him suffer, not knowing what to do.
Sorry - long post - lots to get off my chest!
LittleVera
I became my mother's 'receiver' via the Court of Protection last autumn and wondered whether anyone had any advice for completing the annual accounts.
The paperwork required to get to this point has been incredible! If I had known what was involved at the beginning I might have had second thoughts.
My mother's father had Alzheimers and so when my mother started to develop the signs a few years ago we knew right away what it was. Over time, I spoke to my father several times about taking her to the doctor, or getting some kind of help (they were both in their 70s). But for whatever reason, he never would; he would say 'let's see what she's like in a couple of weeks'. She wasn't washing, was sleeping in her clothes and never changing them; hiding things, getting herself locked into rooms, forgetting to take her thyroid medication and so on.
Anyway, last March 07 they went to Spain for a fortnight and the day after they arrived we got a call to say Dad had had a major heart attack and basically passed away in the hotel room. Mum was on her own in a foreign country and I don't have a passport! So you can imagine our panic - happily, a wonderful lady from the travel company went to the clinic to be with her and stayed with her all day, flying back to the UK with her that night.
Since that time Mum has lived with us in our house as I cannot deal with her living alone and the amount of time I would have to spend at her house to care for her (even with the help of social services). I am married with 3 young children and also self-employed.
My greatest sadness is that Mum cannot tell me what happened in my father's last hours, and I have no way of knowing how long she might have sat watching him suffer, not knowing what to do.
Sorry - long post - lots to get off my chest!
LittleVera
