Hi,
I am having a nightmare with my brother who I share Joint and several POA with. If anyone has any information/advice or experience of this I would be so grateful for some help.
It is so hard dealing with my Mums deterioration but made a million times worse by having to deal with my brother who is aggressive towards me and seems in complete denial as to how bad my Mum is.
He and his wife only live half an hour away but he only visits her once a week if that and his wife has visited twice since July.
I am staying near my Mum and have been caring for her on a daily basis but I am only here (I live over 5 hours away) until January and have been trying to sort things out over the last few months.
I have asked Social Care for advice they have told me that my Mum lacks mental capacity. They have advised that we go down the route of putting sensors in to start with to monitor Mum going out but if she does continue to go out (she has had numerous falls) with the response time I can't see the point of it.
The installation team are taking forever to actually install anything.
Everyone seems to be sitting on the fence, we have had two meetings with Social services and as far as any progress with my brother it's a complete waste of time.
I seriously think that if I go home and leave my Mum here she will be at risk she should not be left on her own anymore I have told Social Services this.
The question is if I put my Mum into a care home would my brother be able to take her out?
I am having a nightmare with my brother who I share Joint and several POA with. If anyone has any information/advice or experience of this I would be so grateful for some help.
It is so hard dealing with my Mums deterioration but made a million times worse by having to deal with my brother who is aggressive towards me and seems in complete denial as to how bad my Mum is.
He and his wife only live half an hour away but he only visits her once a week if that and his wife has visited twice since July.
I am staying near my Mum and have been caring for her on a daily basis but I am only here (I live over 5 hours away) until January and have been trying to sort things out over the last few months.
I have asked Social Care for advice they have told me that my Mum lacks mental capacity. They have advised that we go down the route of putting sensors in to start with to monitor Mum going out but if she does continue to go out (she has had numerous falls) with the response time I can't see the point of it.
The installation team are taking forever to actually install anything.
Everyone seems to be sitting on the fence, we have had two meetings with Social services and as far as any progress with my brother it's a complete waste of time.
I seriously think that if I go home and leave my Mum here she will be at risk she should not be left on her own anymore I have told Social Services this.
The question is if I put my Mum into a care home would my brother be able to take her out?