Dad is now taking mum out from carehome twice weekly, they go out ,have lunch and a nice time. I visit too and my brother when he visits local. Mum seems more settled, on antipsychotics, lonely in carehome, not violent now, but very confused, memory so poor. I want mum to have quality of life and so pleased she can enjoy visits a bit more. I find it so hard to accept she can't come home though. I know dad couldn't cope full time with the one to one. I could do shopping and pop in daily, but I have a young child, husband, work and I'm not very good with the unpredictable nature of dementia and mum, gets me very low and I'm.probably not a very positive person round my mum as I can't believe this has happened to her. I think I am asking, seeking support to tell me that all is being done for mum? It goes round and round my head that I'm not doing enough for her!