I am in such a quandary about my dad. I am so extremely tired and feel I can't cope so I have been looking into respite. I am also due to have an operation so would definitely need it. As I have said in a previous post I am an only child with no family and a full on job. Dad is showing all classic signs including wanting to go home (even though he is), mood swings, not sleeping, at times not recognising me, thinking he is still working, incontenance in the night. The list could go on! I am staying with him whilst he recovers from a broken arm. Not sure if he will get full movement back in the arm. If he takes to respite well I am considering the possibility of him needing to go into a home on a permanent basis. But OMG the cost! Been to two care homes and they are around £1,200 per week. How on earth do I self fund this. The decision to sell the house is one I am struggling with as it is our home and it's a big decision to make by myself. Got financial advisors involved but my head is spinning! Am I missing out on any funding that would help me! He is on higher rate attendance allowance and a pension but a month of this won't cover two weeks in a care home! Left a care home today thinking are everyone's relatives care homes wealthy and is this just completely a ridiculous idea to even consider. Apologies if this is a really personal question for everyone but I am just so confused!