Hi All, first of all Happy Christmas to everyone and I hope you get the Christmas you all deserve. Now to my question. My Dad has been in hospital since the summer and has recently moved into a care home. He has experienced a rapid decline in his dementia from nothing more then a little strange to full blown dementia needing 24/7 care in a little under four months. My question relates to my mum more though. She cries constantly, swings between thinking he doesn't have dementia when he is on a good day to utter devastation when he is having a bad day. She is racked with guilt at him being in a home but knows he can't be cared for at home. Her own memory is shot to pieces and she is struggling to remember more than basic things. She has had a basic 30 point dementia test ( although I couldn't see how that would have given any significant clues to her state of mind) which she scored well on and the doctor has concluded she is just adjusting to her new reality. Has anyone got any advice on how I can bring her through this stage as I am struggling. She tells me to "stop getting on at her" and refuses to talk to anyone else about how she feels.