Advice about helping in a crisis.
Hi.My Dad is 87 and in the mid stage of Alzheimer's and my Mum is 83 and looking after him.I live 100 miles from them and since the death of my brother in 2011 I am their only child. I call Mum every day for about 40 mins without fail,so know their routine etc.Mum has refused to get any outside help,as she thinks it demeans My Dad,and I know if she is ill I will have to drop everything and go and help.Can anyone please advise me what I would do in such circumstances,trying to look after them both.At the moment they don't even have a bed for me,although I have asked Mum to get one in case I need to stay.Would there be anyone I could turn to for help and advice in these circumstances,I am getting very anxious and worried how I would cope.My own health isn't great and I lost my 29 year old daughter in very traumatic circumstances in 2014,since when I have never really recovered although I hide that from my Mum.Mum is getting very tired and I can't persuade her to get anyone even to stay with Dad so she can have a break,it is very frustrating.How would I access help if the worst happens and she can't look after my Dad.My husband has just been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I can't seem to stop worrying that anytime I might get the call to go,without even a bed to sleep in there.I'd be very grateful for any advice.Sending love to all.
Hi.My Dad is 87 and in the mid stage of Alzheimer's and my Mum is 83 and looking after him.I live 100 miles from them and since the death of my brother in 2011 I am their only child. I call Mum every day for about 40 mins without fail,so know their routine etc.Mum has refused to get any outside help,as she thinks it demeans My Dad,and I know if she is ill I will have to drop everything and go and help.Can anyone please advise me what I would do in such circumstances,trying to look after them both.At the moment they don't even have a bed for me,although I have asked Mum to get one in case I need to stay.Would there be anyone I could turn to for help and advice in these circumstances,I am getting very anxious and worried how I would cope.My own health isn't great and I lost my 29 year old daughter in very traumatic circumstances in 2014,since when I have never really recovered although I hide that from my Mum.Mum is getting very tired and I can't persuade her to get anyone even to stay with Dad so she can have a break,it is very frustrating.How would I access help if the worst happens and she can't look after my Dad.My husband has just been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I can't seem to stop worrying that anytime I might get the call to go,without even a bed to sleep in there.I'd be very grateful for any advice.Sending love to all.