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Coping with paranoia and fixations

Linbrusco

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Mar 4, 2013
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Auckland...... New Zealand
Hi from NZealand
Dad 83 has mixed dementia, predominately frontal lobe issues.
He has been in care since October.
First 8 weeks he settled very well.
Then he had a UTI and treated.
His behaviour since has changed.
When carers take his dirty clothes or change his sheets he thinks they’ve been stolen.
He puts all his belongings in his drawer or wardrobe, including pictures on the wall so they cant be stolen.
Until now we’ve managed these accusations.
A week ago, he suddenly started accusing everyone , us included of stealing his money.
Apparently he won a big sum of money at bingo, put it in his pocket and someone has stolen it.
Yes he did play bingo and won, but the prize was a box of chocolates.
He has been tested for another UTI which was negative, but small amount of bacteria.
Dad has prostate cancer and prone to retaining urine. He is not constipated.
When visiting his whole conversation is about his money being stolen, and he wants to report it to the police.
Getting him fake money would not work ... he knows the real thing.
Distraction only works for minutes and then hes back on a loop again.
Every day hes complaining to the Carers, Nurses, Rest Home Manager & General Manager and anyone who will listen.
Wether you contradict him or go along with it he gets agitated, until you can manage to distract him sufficiently, generally by taking him to visit Mum who is in advanced stage of Alzheimers and in the hospital.... but after a while he starts complaining to all and sundry there about his stolen money.
Care home GP did some blood tests and have put him on a general antibiotic and regular pain releif.
If nothing is found they have suggested a low dose Respiradone, as it may just be a dementia progression.
If this doesnt work and his behaviour remains or increases he risks being moved to a higher level of care to secure dementia.

any suggestions welcome
 

PatrickWJ

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Jan 26, 2021
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Hi from NZealand
Dad 83 has mixed dementia, predominately frontal lobe issues.
He has been in care since October.
First 8 weeks he settled very well.
Then he had a UTI and treated.
His behaviour since has changed.
When carers take his dirty clothes or change his sheets he thinks they’ve been stolen.
He puts all his belongings in his drawer or wardrobe, including pictures on the wall so they cant be stolen.
Until now we’ve managed these accusations.
A week ago, he suddenly started accusing everyone , us included of stealing his money.
Apparently he won a big sum of money at bingo, put it in his pocket and someone has stolen it.
Yes he did play bingo and won, but the prize was a box of chocolates.
He has been tested for another UTI which was negative, but small amount of bacteria.
Dad has prostate cancer and prone to retaining urine. He is not constipated.
When visiting his whole conversation is about his money being stolen, and he wants to report it to the police.
Getting him fake money would not work ... he knows the real thing.
Distraction only works for minutes and then hes back on a loop again.
Every day hes complaining to the Carers, Nurses, Rest Home Manager & General Manager and anyone who will listen.
Wether you contradict him or go along with it he gets agitated, until you can manage to distract him sufficiently, generally by taking him to visit Mum who is in advanced stage of Alzheimers and in the hospital.... but after a while he starts complaining to all and sundry there about his stolen money.
Care home GP did some blood tests and have put him on a general antibiotic and regular pain releif.
If nothing is found they have suggested a low dose Respiradone, as it may just be a dementia progression.
If this doesnt work and his behaviour remains or increases he risks being moved to a higher level of care to secure dementia.

any suggestions welcome
Is it worth getting him some cash... and then saying sorry this is all we could find... or something along those lines?
 

Linbrusco

Registered User
Mar 4, 2013
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Auckland...... New Zealand
Dads care home has a strict no money policy for this reason.
They have an account with money pre loaded to buy anything at the shop there. We buy anything else for him.
Giving Dad a small amount may lead to him trying to leave the Rest Home grounds in search of a shop to buy cigarettes. Hes been on patches to stop smoking for 4 months as he has a lung disease.
He can still count money, and he also constantly asks about his pension. Pension is now taken towards his care.