my 88 year old mother has vascular dementia. She was always a lovely kind lady, a stay at home mother and wife who loved to cook and run a wonderful home. Now she has dementia and is being looked after at home by my father (same age) she has started being absolutely vile and bullying towards him and acting like a sulky petulant child. Nothing he does is right, she accuses him of taking away her independence and controlling everything she does. She is sweetness and light to me and anyone else who is in the house - it only seems to be him that evokes such a hostile, nasty approach possibly because he is doing all of the things she used to do around the house in her own way (but can't now) . I have had to say to Mum that she has been nasty to Dad and apologise (real role reversal here!) but it has got to the point that he is almost afraid to say or do anything for fear of the backlash he will get.
Anyone else experienced this and got any advice for me ( and my poor father)?
Anyone else experienced this and got any advice for me ( and my poor father)?