My husband went into a care home at the beginning of November. He now seems to have really settled down and his behaviour is no longer an issue as far as I am aware.
However he has been taken off most of his diabetics medication dye to weight loss, and also his diazepam reduced to just one in the evening.
He seems much more alert and is remembering things quite well, particularly when he has visitors who he can relate to the activities he used to take part in. He is quite capable of holding a lucid conversation, but at times will bring in remarks which don't fit. For example after talking with me and a friend for an hour in a very normal way, he asked me where I had been all day yesterday. I told him I had been to see him in the afternoon and we listened to a Louis Armstrong CD. He said I had gone out at 8.30 and not returned until after 10.00pm. He didn't seem to believe me. On entering his room he said quite firmly he wants to come home , he hates it there and he can't live without me. He can't wait to get out.
Recently he has been talking about buying a car again( has no current licence due to stroke induced seizures)
Also keeps asking when we can go on holiday again. I took him abroad on my own in June 2015 but it wasn't exactly relaxing. He was convinced one night I had been out all the night.
I feel absolutely wretched because when he is lucid it's hard to give a good reason for him staying there. Wanting to go out and buy a car was a big problem before he went into care and caused a lot of stress because he has no understanding of why he isn't fit enough to drive. He said to my friend today "they all think I am mad around here , but I'm not"
I feel bad because whilst I haven't been caring for him at home I have regained my life and have loved the freedom. I would be loathe to give that up, but I love him and if he has improved enough to come home I will have to accept that.
Is there anyone out there who can identify with my situation?
However he has been taken off most of his diabetics medication dye to weight loss, and also his diazepam reduced to just one in the evening.
He seems much more alert and is remembering things quite well, particularly when he has visitors who he can relate to the activities he used to take part in. He is quite capable of holding a lucid conversation, but at times will bring in remarks which don't fit. For example after talking with me and a friend for an hour in a very normal way, he asked me where I had been all day yesterday. I told him I had been to see him in the afternoon and we listened to a Louis Armstrong CD. He said I had gone out at 8.30 and not returned until after 10.00pm. He didn't seem to believe me. On entering his room he said quite firmly he wants to come home , he hates it there and he can't live without me. He can't wait to get out.
Recently he has been talking about buying a car again( has no current licence due to stroke induced seizures)
Also keeps asking when we can go on holiday again. I took him abroad on my own in June 2015 but it wasn't exactly relaxing. He was convinced one night I had been out all the night.
I feel absolutely wretched because when he is lucid it's hard to give a good reason for him staying there. Wanting to go out and buy a car was a big problem before he went into care and caused a lot of stress because he has no understanding of why he isn't fit enough to drive. He said to my friend today "they all think I am mad around here , but I'm not"
I feel bad because whilst I haven't been caring for him at home I have regained my life and have loved the freedom. I would be loathe to give that up, but I love him and if he has improved enough to come home I will have to accept that.
Is there anyone out there who can identify with my situation?