I know a lot of people are in similar situations, but I think all of us get frustrated and struggle to know what to do for the best, especially as every situation is slightly different.
In my case, my mother-in-law moved in with us in 2012, she was only 67, she cared for her husband, but couldnt cope and he ended up in a home, she moved in with us. She already had bad depression, and bad nerves, but was okay generally. We could go away and leave her, took her away for weekends, and she was doing some housework and washing and loved the garden.
Wasnt until end of 2018 we noticed she was struggling more, and early 2019 had her checked and was diagnosed with early signs of Alzheimers. She seemed to be coping, but she is waiting for 2 hip replacements, and cataracts. And we moved house in October. We are not sure if its the depression, alzheimers, the pain from the hips, or the house move, but the last couple of months, she just seems to have given up. We have a lot of tears over anything (had to stop her over feeding the dogs that upset her a lot), she wont go out without her son (my hubby), she will hardly make anything in the kitchen, she has stopped liking a lot of foods that she use to eat, she often just sits there all day. And of cause we have noticed that she forgets a lot more now, what we were watching on TV, or when I'm working, or names of every day items.
We want to get her out to the dementia cafe or something, but she doesnt want to see anyone. We are starting to feel a little trapped. We are taking her on holiday this year as we know we cant leave her. We dont quality for carers, and we have no other family to help. Even leaving her for a few hours to go to my dads 80th next week is a worry. We are going to call the memory clinic to see if they can visit her, but we know that will upset her again.
Now I'm writing this, I dont see that advise we could even get. But how do you tell the difference between a bad mood from depression or Alzheimers? We were also told that hip replacements (any operation) can increase memory loss? Anyone else had that issue?
In my case, my mother-in-law moved in with us in 2012, she was only 67, she cared for her husband, but couldnt cope and he ended up in a home, she moved in with us. She already had bad depression, and bad nerves, but was okay generally. We could go away and leave her, took her away for weekends, and she was doing some housework and washing and loved the garden.
Wasnt until end of 2018 we noticed she was struggling more, and early 2019 had her checked and was diagnosed with early signs of Alzheimers. She seemed to be coping, but she is waiting for 2 hip replacements, and cataracts. And we moved house in October. We are not sure if its the depression, alzheimers, the pain from the hips, or the house move, but the last couple of months, she just seems to have given up. We have a lot of tears over anything (had to stop her over feeding the dogs that upset her a lot), she wont go out without her son (my hubby), she will hardly make anything in the kitchen, she has stopped liking a lot of foods that she use to eat, she often just sits there all day. And of cause we have noticed that she forgets a lot more now, what we were watching on TV, or when I'm working, or names of every day items.
We want to get her out to the dementia cafe or something, but she doesnt want to see anyone. We are starting to feel a little trapped. We are taking her on holiday this year as we know we cant leave her. We dont quality for carers, and we have no other family to help. Even leaving her for a few hours to go to my dads 80th next week is a worry. We are going to call the memory clinic to see if they can visit her, but we know that will upset her again.
Now I'm writing this, I dont see that advise we could even get. But how do you tell the difference between a bad mood from depression or Alzheimers? We were also told that hip replacements (any operation) can increase memory loss? Anyone else had that issue?