If you've read my posts before, you'll know that my Dad has late stage dementia and all the horrible symptoms that go with it. His deterioration is slow but I don't think he's 'actively dying' (sorry, I don't know how else to describe it) at the moment. I love my dad very much and do my best to see he is comfortable and looked after. I am lucky in that he is well cared for at the NH so apart from visiting regularly and buying what he needs, I have it easy compared with some. Of course there's the emotional side of things to cope with but I know that I am lucky in many ways.
But I find that the emotions that come with watching him suffer his illness leave me with little energy to cope with all the other family events that happen. I have just heard that my brother has been diagnosed with cancer. He has confided in me but asked me not to say anything due to a family wedding that is coming up in a few days. I am so sorry for him and can't imagine how scared he must be but am finding it hard to deal with this when I can't really talk to the rest of the family. We have a large family but unfortunately for various reasons, I find myself being the one they turn to for support when things get tough. I'm an anxious person by nature and am finding I am finding it hard to cope with all this.
I'm sorry if it's inappropriate to put things on here that aren't really to do with dementia but sometimes life isn't easy to put into little boxes - everything gets mixed up together. I wish life was easier sometimes.
But I find that the emotions that come with watching him suffer his illness leave me with little energy to cope with all the other family events that happen. I have just heard that my brother has been diagnosed with cancer. He has confided in me but asked me not to say anything due to a family wedding that is coming up in a few days. I am so sorry for him and can't imagine how scared he must be but am finding it hard to deal with this when I can't really talk to the rest of the family. We have a large family but unfortunately for various reasons, I find myself being the one they turn to for support when things get tough. I'm an anxious person by nature and am finding I am finding it hard to cope with all this.
I'm sorry if it's inappropriate to put things on here that aren't really to do with dementia but sometimes life isn't easy to put into little boxes - everything gets mixed up together. I wish life was easier sometimes.