Hello,
New to the forum and this is my first post. My father has vascular dementia, and lives with my mum who is his only carer at the moment. He has been diagnosed for about 4 years. He is better at home in a stable routine, copes fairly well in conversations when in company although with a fair bit of repetition, but when he's on his own with mum, the whole day is a series of conversation routines, about the past or a favourite selection of ideas and experiences that aren't real (e.g. what he's got wrong with him, thinking he's paid for people to work on the house and they haven't come to do the work etc.), . Mum has tried both going along with whatever he's saying, and also tried explaining what is true and what isn't. Unless she is very engaged each time (and that can be many multiple times of the same routine in the same morning or afternoon) he gets irate with her for not caring enough or supporting him. Those of you who know this experience will know how wearing and frustrating it is - do you have any coping strategies I can recommend to Mum? I have suggested she join this forum, but she's trying not to see too far ahead with this at the moment as she finds it very depressing. Thank you.
New to the forum and this is my first post. My father has vascular dementia, and lives with my mum who is his only carer at the moment. He has been diagnosed for about 4 years. He is better at home in a stable routine, copes fairly well in conversations when in company although with a fair bit of repetition, but when he's on his own with mum, the whole day is a series of conversation routines, about the past or a favourite selection of ideas and experiences that aren't real (e.g. what he's got wrong with him, thinking he's paid for people to work on the house and they haven't come to do the work etc.), . Mum has tried both going along with whatever he's saying, and also tried explaining what is true and what isn't. Unless she is very engaged each time (and that can be many multiple times of the same routine in the same morning or afternoon) he gets irate with her for not caring enough or supporting him. Those of you who know this experience will know how wearing and frustrating it is - do you have any coping strategies I can recommend to Mum? I have suggested she join this forum, but she's trying not to see too far ahead with this at the moment as she finds it very depressing. Thank you.