The back story in brief:
Mum (16 months from Vascular Dementia diagnosis) fell on a bus the last Friday in April, fractured her hip, had a half hip replacement, stayed in hospital for 18 days and 33 days in a rehabilitation unit. I asked if she could come home as her confusion was increasing and the staff were happy to discharge her.
What's new:
The staff asked if I was okay to support my mum at home as I had before - ensuring she took mediation on a night via a prompt over the phone. I agreed to that and said I would also ensure she got a hot meal once a day - her mobility had been reviewed and she was able to make a little snack for herself.
She see's herself as "poorly" and this means she sits in her chair all day long, refuses to eat what's prepared for her and doesn't make anything herself. She struggles to take her medication and if we (myself and my husband to be) don't wait until it's been swallowed will spit them out again. She's got what I think is water retention in her legs - I'm taking her to the GP today.
She hates me for being bossy and telling her off but I'm doing it from love, she asks the most random questions, and about people who are long since deceased (started to get into the habit of love lies). A new today was asking if she needed to phone work to let them know she was sick - she last worked properly before having me 36 years ago!
She's tried putting mint imperials in her ears instead of her hearing aids, always puts hearing aids in the wrong ears despite the being colour coded with a box which I made to prompt which is which. Also forgets to put false teeth in (and refuses point blank to put bottom set in).
Today's breakfast has taken 90 minutes and that's for a slice of toast - still ¾ left and a half cup of coffee of which only ½ has been drunk.
We've an appointment to see a dietician in just under 2 weeks - but they've already prescribed her energy rich supplement drinks and she refuses to have them.
I have a social worker coming to see me on Wednesday about my role as a carer as this is far more than I was lead to believe it would be from her leaving rehab - our wedding is in 3 weeks and I need things in place for when we go on honeymoon after.
I've also need put in touch with a volunteer based carers support group by mum's physiotherapist which I'm going to go to a coffee and chat session on Monday with.
Really just needed to vent but if anyone has any thoughts, tips or advise I'd greatly appreciate it.
Mum (16 months from Vascular Dementia diagnosis) fell on a bus the last Friday in April, fractured her hip, had a half hip replacement, stayed in hospital for 18 days and 33 days in a rehabilitation unit. I asked if she could come home as her confusion was increasing and the staff were happy to discharge her.
What's new:
The staff asked if I was okay to support my mum at home as I had before - ensuring she took mediation on a night via a prompt over the phone. I agreed to that and said I would also ensure she got a hot meal once a day - her mobility had been reviewed and she was able to make a little snack for herself.
She see's herself as "poorly" and this means she sits in her chair all day long, refuses to eat what's prepared for her and doesn't make anything herself. She struggles to take her medication and if we (myself and my husband to be) don't wait until it's been swallowed will spit them out again. She's got what I think is water retention in her legs - I'm taking her to the GP today.
She hates me for being bossy and telling her off but I'm doing it from love, she asks the most random questions, and about people who are long since deceased (started to get into the habit of love lies). A new today was asking if she needed to phone work to let them know she was sick - she last worked properly before having me 36 years ago!
She's tried putting mint imperials in her ears instead of her hearing aids, always puts hearing aids in the wrong ears despite the being colour coded with a box which I made to prompt which is which. Also forgets to put false teeth in (and refuses point blank to put bottom set in).
Today's breakfast has taken 90 minutes and that's for a slice of toast - still ¾ left and a half cup of coffee of which only ½ has been drunk.
We've an appointment to see a dietician in just under 2 weeks - but they've already prescribed her energy rich supplement drinks and she refuses to have them.
I have a social worker coming to see me on Wednesday about my role as a carer as this is far more than I was lead to believe it would be from her leaving rehab - our wedding is in 3 weeks and I need things in place for when we go on honeymoon after.
I've also need put in touch with a volunteer based carers support group by mum's physiotherapist which I'm going to go to a coffee and chat session on Monday with.
Really just needed to vent but if anyone has any thoughts, tips or advise I'd greatly appreciate it.