1. Avis

    Avis Registered User

    Nov 2, 2019
    71
    Has anyone else come across their OH having bouts of thinking that are totally contradictory? My OH told me that he was not wearing his pull up because he had taken it off when he was at the toilet and wasn't going to wear one again, so I asked where it was. "I don't know," he said. So I went an fetched another one and he said he didn't need it because he had one on. "But you said you took it off," "I did", he said. "I'm not wearing them again". "But you have one on now?" "Yes". I don't know if he is confused but I certainly am.
     
  2. nae sporran

    nae sporran Volunteer Host

    Oct 29, 2014
    6,109
    Male
    Bristol
    Sorry Avis, I had to laugh at that even though I do understand how frustrating it can be. My OH can hold two opposing opinions on any subject at the same time and wonder why I look puzzled.
     
  3. annielou

    annielou Registered User

    Sep 27, 2019
    233
    In the past couple of years I have often said my mum should be called Mary as in 'contrary Mary' as she often says two contradictory things at the same time.
     
  4. Avis

    Avis Registered User

    Nov 2, 2019
    71
    Thanks, I am glad to know I am not going crazy.
     
  5. Avis

    Avis Registered User

    Nov 2, 2019
    71
    It is so frustrating sometimes isn't it. How the brain works, or doesn't, is a mystery.
     
  6. northumbrian_k

    northumbrian_k Registered User

    Mar 2, 2017
    874
    Male
    Newcastle
    It seems to be perfectly possible for a person with dementia to hold 2 entirely contradictory views at the same time. It is even possible for them to have a conversation with someone whilst querying the whereabouts of that person. My wife has often said something like "K, what time did K say that he would be back?" Today she acknowledged that she was wearing shoes but also said that she needed to put some shoes on. Never take anything at face value!
     
  7. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,814
    Female
    South coast
    I very quickly learned to distrust mums utterances of "I know that"
    As In
    Mum - where are we going for lunch?
    Me - we are at the cafe now mum.
    Mum - I know that, but where are we going for lunch?
     
  8. Jaded'n'faded

    Jaded'n'faded Registered User

    Jan 23, 2019
    532
    Female
    High Peak
    My mum's view on her care home was: 'I love it here - the food is nice and the girls can't do enough for you... but I can't stay here because there's never any food and everyone is horrible...'
     
  9. Helly68

    Helly68 Registered User

    Mar 12, 2018
    484
    We may have called my Mum "Mary,Mary quite contrary" once or twice......
    I think she quite lied it.
     
  10. Avis

    Avis Registered User

    Nov 2, 2019
    71
    Sounds like my other half. It takes getting used to.
     
  11. Donkeyshere

    Donkeyshere Registered User

    May 25, 2016
    328
    channel islands
    My MIL is in hospital, yesterday we visited and she said oh time goes so slowly here I'm very bored, 2 mins later oh time flies by in here!
     

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