Dear All
Mum (with vascular dementia) had a bad fall last September, spent 10/52 in hospital, and has been in a nursing home since - Dad is heart-broken and has spent every single day since the fall by her side. Not surprisingly his own health has suffered badly (he's nearly 80). Despite the fact Mum's in a supposedly great home (which costs a fortune), the place is all show and no real caring for the frail residents who can't join in the drinks parties and socials, and who simply need good and compassionate care like Mum. Sorry, note of bitterness creeping in... There are no other homes that could take her within driving distance of Dad's house. I am trying to do 2 things - first, find out if it is possible to get Mum home. The social worker and the hospital said Dad is not up to looking after Mum, which is true if he is on his own, but the sw could not find enough carers to help him either, so Mum ended up in this home. The sw will invoke section ? of the mental health act if he tries to take her home without appropriate care (which would probably need to be 24/7). He will have to pay for private care and have the house adapted to stand any chance of getting her home, so I'm looking into the possibilities. The second thing is that Mum was assessed for NHS Continuing Care and was refused, although she does get the highest level of nursing care allowance (which is a drop in the ocean compared to the nursing home fees). I've downloaded the Alz soc guide to how to challenge this decision, but I'd love to hear from anyone who has already tried to do this, or is in the process.
Best wishes
Mum (with vascular dementia) had a bad fall last September, spent 10/52 in hospital, and has been in a nursing home since - Dad is heart-broken and has spent every single day since the fall by her side. Not surprisingly his own health has suffered badly (he's nearly 80). Despite the fact Mum's in a supposedly great home (which costs a fortune), the place is all show and no real caring for the frail residents who can't join in the drinks parties and socials, and who simply need good and compassionate care like Mum. Sorry, note of bitterness creeping in... There are no other homes that could take her within driving distance of Dad's house. I am trying to do 2 things - first, find out if it is possible to get Mum home. The social worker and the hospital said Dad is not up to looking after Mum, which is true if he is on his own, but the sw could not find enough carers to help him either, so Mum ended up in this home. The sw will invoke section ? of the mental health act if he tries to take her home without appropriate care (which would probably need to be 24/7). He will have to pay for private care and have the house adapted to stand any chance of getting her home, so I'm looking into the possibilities. The second thing is that Mum was assessed for NHS Continuing Care and was refused, although she does get the highest level of nursing care allowance (which is a drop in the ocean compared to the nursing home fees). I've downloaded the Alz soc guide to how to challenge this decision, but I'd love to hear from anyone who has already tried to do this, or is in the process.
Best wishes