Hello, Has anyone been in our situation? My mum has been diagnosed with severe dementia. At the moment she lives in a lovely warden assisted flat and the staff there have been marvellous, making her coffee in the mornings and generally helping out, but the psychiatrist said residential care was the right course. We took her along to three care homes for a visit but they all said they felt she was too difficult to manage. One care home said they would take her but both my sister and I felt the place was too chaotic, with a strong smell of urine and a generally shabby feel, although the staff appeared nice. So we have tried a more intensive home care package . This is not ideal either as the home care people are not on mum's wave length and she does spend a fair amount of the day staring at the telly or standing at the window. But she seems reasonably calm, and she does see either my sister or myself every day. . The next step would be continuing care in a local psychogeriatric hospital, but I don't know if my mum is "bad" enough for that, or if we should persist with other care homes. Has anyone had a similar experience?