My elderly mum has not been diagnosed with dementia yet, but all the signs are there. She recently moved into an excellent care home because since the death of my dad 7yrs ago, she has gradually been unable to cope at home.
My wife has been supportive on a very practical level (making extra portions of food, buying underwear since mum became unwell), but she is very resentful of the amount of time spent (by me or both of us) in helping/visiting mum. Since mum moved into the care home (on a trial which I hope will become permanent), my wife has continually argued with me about how this all disrupts and impacts on our life.
My own feeling is that my mum is a priority at the moment and I should be strong and stand by my efforts and belief in getting my mum settled in her new life so that she can enjoy life in comfort with no worries.
Is this a common theme amongst married couples? If so, advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
My wife has been supportive on a very practical level (making extra portions of food, buying underwear since mum became unwell), but she is very resentful of the amount of time spent (by me or both of us) in helping/visiting mum. Since mum moved into the care home (on a trial which I hope will become permanent), my wife has continually argued with me about how this all disrupts and impacts on our life.
My own feeling is that my mum is a priority at the moment and I should be strong and stand by my efforts and belief in getting my mum settled in her new life so that she can enjoy life in comfort with no worries.
Is this a common theme amongst married couples? If so, advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you