For the last 2 years my mother has trusted me completely. After my dad's death in Feb 2006 I sorted out finances and helped with as much as I could, taking 18 months off work to travel back and fore to try and keep things going for Mum. Mum has been slipping further into dementia and within the last few months I have somehow become "a not nice daughter" as far as she is concerned. When I visit I am accused of stealing cultery, plates, purses and money and of rummaging through her drawers to deliberately confuse her. She is widening the distance between us and doesn't phone much now - which is really worrying as she lives alone. Phoning is quite a struggle for her as she is loosing the ability with words also. I live 200 miles away and feel quite cut off. Last visit I persuaded her to see the Dr and she has since had a house visit from a geriatric psychiatrist. He has said that she has "good going moderate dementia" and from a mini mental state test is "below the threshold for being at home with a care package". This is horror news as Mum is very very independant and considers that she is managing in the house with no care package. She seems a paradox - an appauling short term memory but, in the Dr's own words, keeps her house immaculate. I am terrified of where this is going and Mum thinks the whole thing is my doing and that I am out to get her.