In your position the first place I'd go to would be the CAB.
Going to the CAB is crucial if you want to get things sorted out.
It comes across to me from reading this thread and seeing some of your other threads that you are overwhelmed and hence just want to walk away from it all. I think you've got quite a strong case for a disregard and I suggest you don't give up on it. You've lived in your Mothers home for decades, paid the mortgage, plus the house is still mortgaged and not worth a lot. You've been a carer for x time. I'm sure the CAB could think of other reasons why you should get a disregard.No the £150 a week is what the care home asked me for because the council haven't paid them a penny yet , its not a top up just interim payments because they would like some payment. Ive refused pay it in any case & sign the contract. I think getting a disregard is going just prolong the problems and if anything make things worse while it gets sorted out. Depending on how this afternoons meeting goes , I think I'm going say just take over. Feel like I'm abandoning mum but my own welfare needs considering and I can't carry on living like this feeling the weight is all on me all the time. It'll never end not how our local council seem to work ..
Going to the CAB is crucial if you want to get things sorted out.