You're not being naive, @Francisco, not at all. You know best because you're living with it. I know only too well that trying to deal with anything of a legal/official nature when your loved one has dementia can be simply a bridge too far. Best, if you can, to go with the flow and avoid conflict. If it's any consolation I've gone through the whole nine yards of diagnosis, memory clinic, hospital and now nursing home without a cross word.I really appreciate your obvious wish to be helpful - many thanks!
I have at various points been advised to go for PA (Health) but when my wife was more rational, it would have been a very hard sell for many reasons. Now that her mental faculties have really deteriorated, she is not capable of agreeing to this, even though she trusts me!
Maybe I'm being naive but I can't imagine coming into serious disagreement with nhs/social services about my wife's treatment.
Sorry again for being a bit forward - really very unBritish! I shall go and give myself a taiking to.