Dad has being coping at home less and less over the last few months and during discussions he expressed that he would like to go into a rest home. I suggested that he should try it for a short time to see if he would settle. Initially he was ready to give a month's notice on his sheltered accommodation but I asked him to try the home for one month to see if he liked it before giving his notice - eventually he agreed to this.
He went to the home last Saturday and we paid one month's fees in advance (at dad's insistence to 'save my place!). On the day he went there he seemed really at peace and looking forward to going and never returning to his sheltered accommodation, he'd said a fond farewell to his carers and neighbours and was really happy to go. The home is lovely, the staff are excellent, he loves the food and his nice room and he's already made a friend with one of the other male residents. He's been out a couple of times during the day and had his hair cut at the on site hairdressing salon and the visiting chiropodist is seeing him next week.
Before dad went into the home my sister and I would receive endless number of telephone calls day and night - coming home from a day at work I would expect at least half a dozen messages on my answerphone - even though he would have phoned my mobile at least a dozen times during the day. In the last week he has only phoned me twice and no phone calls to my sister. How well he has settled in!!!
Here's the crux - my three brothers and my sister have visited him at least once each this last week and although he has complained slightly about the Rest Home overall he has been quite happy - when I have visited - every other day this week as opposed to every day at least once when he was at home - I have had nothing but complaints about the home, accusations of abonding him, all sorts of rambling stories about the other residents and staff at the home, accusations of stealing his money, being in partnership with the home's owners to get at his money etc.!!
Does anybody know what I've done wrong - it's breaking my heart
He went to the home last Saturday and we paid one month's fees in advance (at dad's insistence to 'save my place!). On the day he went there he seemed really at peace and looking forward to going and never returning to his sheltered accommodation, he'd said a fond farewell to his carers and neighbours and was really happy to go. The home is lovely, the staff are excellent, he loves the food and his nice room and he's already made a friend with one of the other male residents. He's been out a couple of times during the day and had his hair cut at the on site hairdressing salon and the visiting chiropodist is seeing him next week.
Before dad went into the home my sister and I would receive endless number of telephone calls day and night - coming home from a day at work I would expect at least half a dozen messages on my answerphone - even though he would have phoned my mobile at least a dozen times during the day. In the last week he has only phoned me twice and no phone calls to my sister. How well he has settled in!!!
Here's the crux - my three brothers and my sister have visited him at least once each this last week and although he has complained slightly about the Rest Home overall he has been quite happy - when I have visited - every other day this week as opposed to every day at least once when he was at home - I have had nothing but complaints about the home, accusations of abonding him, all sorts of rambling stories about the other residents and staff at the home, accusations of stealing his money, being in partnership with the home's owners to get at his money etc.!!
Does anybody know what I've done wrong - it's breaking my heart