Hi everyone,
Just thought I'd share some of my thoughts with you, as I can't think of a better place to get an answer from people who understand.
At the moment, my sister and I are at University - we live at home with our parents and Nan (who has dementia as I'm sure you're aware). Both of us work over twenty hours a week around our studies so that we don't have to get greatly into debt with loans etc
Recently both of us have been feeling very frustrated and confused about the situation with our Nan. As our parents are out at work full-time we are quite often at home with our Nan on our own, which can be hard work, especially when we're trying to do our Uni work. Both of us are working/at uni/studying seven days a week and we're finding it very difficult to cope with our Nan on top of all this. I've spoken to my Mum about this but not sure whether I'm being a bit selfish as it's my Nan's house too.
My sister and I are really starting to feel quite bitter and resentful towards my Nan and obviously we feel bad about this. I'm really not sure what the solution is, and I know it's our choice to go to Uni - if we'd gone out to work maybe we wouldn't have to be living at home and would have our own lives, but I'm not sure what to do. I really do feel like screaming and I'm not sure how much longer things can go on like this. I feel angry about it but then guilty that my parents are just trying to do the right thing (and are allowing us to stay in their house), and that we are reacting selfishly.
Has anyone got any thoughts or suggestions? Please be honest! I'm so confused I don't know whether I'm being reasonable or not!
xx
Just thought I'd share some of my thoughts with you, as I can't think of a better place to get an answer from people who understand.
At the moment, my sister and I are at University - we live at home with our parents and Nan (who has dementia as I'm sure you're aware). Both of us work over twenty hours a week around our studies so that we don't have to get greatly into debt with loans etc
Recently both of us have been feeling very frustrated and confused about the situation with our Nan. As our parents are out at work full-time we are quite often at home with our Nan on our own, which can be hard work, especially when we're trying to do our Uni work. Both of us are working/at uni/studying seven days a week and we're finding it very difficult to cope with our Nan on top of all this. I've spoken to my Mum about this but not sure whether I'm being a bit selfish as it's my Nan's house too.
My sister and I are really starting to feel quite bitter and resentful towards my Nan and obviously we feel bad about this. I'm really not sure what the solution is, and I know it's our choice to go to Uni - if we'd gone out to work maybe we wouldn't have to be living at home and would have our own lives, but I'm not sure what to do. I really do feel like screaming and I'm not sure how much longer things can go on like this. I feel angry about it but then guilty that my parents are just trying to do the right thing (and are allowing us to stay in their house), and that we are reacting selfishly.
Has anyone got any thoughts or suggestions? Please be honest! I'm so confused I don't know whether I'm being reasonable or not!
xx