Confronting leaving mum in a nursing home.
Hi there
I'm new to this talking point. I have spent the last 2 months settling mum into a nursing home. I took a year off work to look after her when my father died last July. As a family we have worked well and having a sister who's a nurse helped. She really had to force the issue but we got mum on Ebixa and she never looked back. I attended one Alzheimer's meeting where the speaker presented Alzheimers not as a disease but a disability with at least some workable solutions. In my mother's case this experience was true and I ws fortunate to see mum lead a dignified, happy life with me at home. Unfortunately I have to go back to work away from home in September and so when a place came up in a nursing home near one of my sisters we had to move her.
The Nursing Home has a good reputation and a good standard of nursing care. Yet I can 't get past the impersonal side of the care offered. There is never any real personal contact unless its functional and there is a horrible practice of lining everyone up, production-line style and then jut leaving them all sitting there for hours with little stimulation except a tv blaring in the corner and people calling for attention often in vain.
Everytime I go there there is always something to sort out and I am terrified that when I am not there my mother will just be left sitting there. She will deteriorate and again I am convinced that it will be because she senses she's been abandoned in a corner but everyone will put it down to the advance of her Alzheimers and do nothing.
I feel so sad about the future, my mum deserves better than this but I feel overwhelmed by an inadequate system that I as an individual have to put up with. I am trying to organise finding someone to sit with my mum in the afternoons when I go back to work. Does anyone know if there is such thing as getting a sitters service for a nursing home so my mum can have some one to one stimulation when I leave.
Bye Colleen
Hi there
I'm new to this talking point. I have spent the last 2 months settling mum into a nursing home. I took a year off work to look after her when my father died last July. As a family we have worked well and having a sister who's a nurse helped. She really had to force the issue but we got mum on Ebixa and she never looked back. I attended one Alzheimer's meeting where the speaker presented Alzheimers not as a disease but a disability with at least some workable solutions. In my mother's case this experience was true and I ws fortunate to see mum lead a dignified, happy life with me at home. Unfortunately I have to go back to work away from home in September and so when a place came up in a nursing home near one of my sisters we had to move her.
The Nursing Home has a good reputation and a good standard of nursing care. Yet I can 't get past the impersonal side of the care offered. There is never any real personal contact unless its functional and there is a horrible practice of lining everyone up, production-line style and then jut leaving them all sitting there for hours with little stimulation except a tv blaring in the corner and people calling for attention often in vain.
Everytime I go there there is always something to sort out and I am terrified that when I am not there my mother will just be left sitting there. She will deteriorate and again I am convinced that it will be because she senses she's been abandoned in a corner but everyone will put it down to the advance of her Alzheimers and do nothing.
I feel so sad about the future, my mum deserves better than this but I feel overwhelmed by an inadequate system that I as an individual have to put up with. I am trying to organise finding someone to sit with my mum in the afternoons when I go back to work. Does anyone know if there is such thing as getting a sitters service for a nursing home so my mum can have some one to one stimulation when I leave.
Bye Colleen
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