My Mum is 98 and in late stage dementia. She is in a nursing home and after breaking her hip last year is unable to walk. In the last year her ability to communicate has deteriorated and I can no longer understand what she is trying to say. I don't think she recognises me and when I talk to her it doesn't seem to register. She has recently had a chest infection and is on her third course of antibiotics. She has lost her appetite and is sleeping a lot. The staff are concerned that she is losing weight. My sister and I have agreed we don't want her admitted to hospital but I am finding it such a responsibility to make that decision for mum. My head tells me one thing but my heart another.