Hi my mum has just been diagnosed with AD/VD. She went in hospital 3 months ago for a routine operation and her dementia became more noticeable. She went home 2 weeks ago with live in carers. she can not be left on her own the carer had to ask for another carer to be there at night as she was not getting any sleep as mum does not sleep at night and is very agitated from about 4 in the afternoon till about 6 in the morning. she is not eating very well and can not eat anything solid, the carers are giving her everything with full fat milk in it now as they say she should be on a high protein diet, a dietician has not seen her. mum has lost about 2 stone over the last 3 months.
I went to see mum this afternoon and she had a different carer with her who has been there since monday she is from Hungary and her english is not very good.
I was told by one of mums neighbours that someone heard screaming come from mums last night. the neighbour went into mums this morning to check that all was ok to be told by the carer that it was her that screamed because she could not speak to her daughter in Hungary and that she would not do it again as it made my mum cry.We have some other concerns with the carers so my sister who is next of kin spoke to the agency manager about it and she said that she was in over night with mum and that nothing happened. I trust mums neighbours to tell the truth. mum has not been assigned a social worker, so I feel that we have no one to go to and myself and my sister are very worried about our mum. they have also said that they can not have a conversation with mum which is wrong as we all have great chats with mum even if it is mostly repeated.
please can anyone advise us as to what we should do we just want mum to have the proper care.
we have all found it very hard these last 3 months we feel we have lost mum and when the hospital said that mum going home with live in carers would make it better for mum and for us we believed them but it seems worse we are more worried her safety. sorry its a long first post.
Thank you
I went to see mum this afternoon and she had a different carer with her who has been there since monday she is from Hungary and her english is not very good.
I was told by one of mums neighbours that someone heard screaming come from mums last night. the neighbour went into mums this morning to check that all was ok to be told by the carer that it was her that screamed because she could not speak to her daughter in Hungary and that she would not do it again as it made my mum cry.We have some other concerns with the carers so my sister who is next of kin spoke to the agency manager about it and she said that she was in over night with mum and that nothing happened. I trust mums neighbours to tell the truth. mum has not been assigned a social worker, so I feel that we have no one to go to and myself and my sister are very worried about our mum. they have also said that they can not have a conversation with mum which is wrong as we all have great chats with mum even if it is mostly repeated.
please can anyone advise us as to what we should do we just want mum to have the proper care.
we have all found it very hard these last 3 months we feel we have lost mum and when the hospital said that mum going home with live in carers would make it better for mum and for us we believed them but it seems worse we are more worried her safety. sorry its a long first post.
Thank you