Hi all,
I apologise for such a long post, i hope someone can take the time to read this. I really need help and guidance, thank you.
My mother is 61 years old, she was diagnosed with 'unspecified' dementia on the 11th August 2020 and was admitted to hospital on the 7th August 2020 as there had been police reports of her getting up to no good such as, knocking on neighbours doors at 2am, going through bins, wandering around ect.
Her state is deoteriating quickly, she had a CT scan carried out back in 2016 which showed problems - i'm not sure why it took 4 years to determine she had dementia but that is another issue.
My mum (before entering hospital) resides in a council house. My brother "lives" with her however, he does not pay council tax and he is not on the tenancy - she has tried to kick him out several times but he is violent and a lot stronger than her. My mum is an alcoholic and my brother is not a very nice person so it is a very volatile household.
My brother has taken out a lot of loans (i believe up to £18,000), when my mother was admitted to hospital I found out that my brother was taking her credits cards and helping himself to her money - when I realised she still had her cards, i gave them to the hospital for safe keeping but i have bank statements to prove this.
Me and my sister have been dealing with social services and the hospital for over a month and we have stressed it is not safe for her to go home as he will not provide her with the care she needs and he will take advantage.
We were invited to a best interest meeting (me, sister and brother) and me and my sister profusely disagreed she should go home but ultimately, the social decided she needs to be given a chance.
We now believe to have found a credit card in her name which he is using. Currently due to COVID, they are finding it tricky to get a carer to go in intermittently when she is brought back home but I am very concerned for her wellbeing. I have told the social all of this, they saw first hand that he is aggressive as he stormed out of the meeting twice, was swearing and shouting at all of us and still they believe she will be OK at home alone with him?
I don't have any money to fight this legally, i don't have POA because she doesnt have mental capacity.
Thank you for reading, Jay
I apologise for such a long post, i hope someone can take the time to read this. I really need help and guidance, thank you.
My mother is 61 years old, she was diagnosed with 'unspecified' dementia on the 11th August 2020 and was admitted to hospital on the 7th August 2020 as there had been police reports of her getting up to no good such as, knocking on neighbours doors at 2am, going through bins, wandering around ect.
Her state is deoteriating quickly, she had a CT scan carried out back in 2016 which showed problems - i'm not sure why it took 4 years to determine she had dementia but that is another issue.
My mum (before entering hospital) resides in a council house. My brother "lives" with her however, he does not pay council tax and he is not on the tenancy - she has tried to kick him out several times but he is violent and a lot stronger than her. My mum is an alcoholic and my brother is not a very nice person so it is a very volatile household.
My brother has taken out a lot of loans (i believe up to £18,000), when my mother was admitted to hospital I found out that my brother was taking her credits cards and helping himself to her money - when I realised she still had her cards, i gave them to the hospital for safe keeping but i have bank statements to prove this.
Me and my sister have been dealing with social services and the hospital for over a month and we have stressed it is not safe for her to go home as he will not provide her with the care she needs and he will take advantage.
We were invited to a best interest meeting (me, sister and brother) and me and my sister profusely disagreed she should go home but ultimately, the social decided she needs to be given a chance.
We now believe to have found a credit card in her name which he is using. Currently due to COVID, they are finding it tricky to get a carer to go in intermittently when she is brought back home but I am very concerned for her wellbeing. I have told the social all of this, they saw first hand that he is aggressive as he stormed out of the meeting twice, was swearing and shouting at all of us and still they believe she will be OK at home alone with him?
I don't have any money to fight this legally, i don't have POA because she doesnt have mental capacity.
Thank you for reading, Jay